Building Your Self-Confidence

How confident are you?

If you are unsure about yourself then people would tend to look down on you. That in turn would lower your self-esteem even further. So in some ways it is like unending cycle if you have little self-confidence. But you have the power to break that cycle. There is something that you can do about it so that you can boost your self-confidence.

You will be responsible for building your own self-confidence alone. No one can do that for you. You have to start to see yourself in a different light if you want to build your confidence. People will not look up to you if you don’t consider yourself capable of achieving things.

How You See Yourself

How do you see yourself? If you are worried that others might not see you in the way that you want to be perceived, then stop and take a moment. Take a look at yourself and consider how you perceived yourself. If you think that you’re incapable of great achievements and that you lack skills necessary to interact with others, that will have an effect on how other people see you. How you see yourself is actually more important than how others see you. The secret to gaining self-confidence is in learning to love yourself.

Self-confidence is a very valuable asset. According to a study, self-confidence is rated higher as a desirable trait than physical attractiveness. In fact self-confidence was the number one trait for men and women. So, if there is a trait that you should work on in order to be liked by other people, that would be self-confidence for sure.

Because having self-confidence is such a desirable trait, you should work on getting more of it. To help you out we have listed a few ways that you can gain more self-confidence.

Remember You Are Unique

One of the best ways that you can start to build your confidence is to remember that you are unique and that there is no one else like you. There are many reasons why you are unique. No one looks like you exactly. No one has the exact same experience and because of that, no one has the same kind point of view. Because you are one of a kind, no one else can offer the same insights that you can. No one can have the same impact on other people as you do. When you think about it that way, you will see how unique you are. That goes a long way in building your self-confidence. Knowing that you are special even if there are billions of people all over the world is comforting.

Do Your Best

Whenever you have to do something, make sure that you give it your best shot. Knowing that you have given a task and you do your best to fulfil it can make you feel good. It can build up your confidence. Even when the task that you did not turn out as planned you would still feel good knowing that you gave it your all. When you know that you held back when trying to accomplish something, you will have a nagging feeling that you could have done better.

Don’t Give Up

You will have setbacks. You will fail, but don’t let that pull you down and let you feel bad about yourself. Failures can be turned into opportunities or at the very least you can learn from them so that in the future you would not commit the same mistakes again. The important thing is that you should not give in the face of failure and setbacks. Do not let that hold you down.

Winning over Adversity

There will always be challenges that we would have to face in life. You should be ready and willing to win over those challenges. When you overcome adversity, that will strengthen your self-confidence. You will know that you can handle problems and you would not be fearful in case the same problems would arise again in the future. Others will also see you in a different light once they see how you handled challenges and adversities facing you. People will start to look up to you after you show them that you can triumph over adversity.

Achieve Some Accomplishment

Another good booster of self-confidence would be some kind of achievement. You need to set goals for yourself and then do everything that you can in order to reach those goals. You should try to set some difficult goals. The harder the goal that you have set for yourself is, the more self-confidence that you will gain once you have achieved those goals. You should also strive to gain mastery over something.

See Yourself for Who You Are

Some people who lack self-confidence are carried away by the things that happen in their lives. But you should keep in mind that you are not defined by the things that happen to you. You are separate from how others see you. Do not be affected by these factors that you have no control. Remember that you are the kind of person that you choose to be.

Face Your Fears

Some people are just dominated by fear. They let those fears limit what they can do in life. They try to hide from those fears. If you live your life like that then it is a guarantee that you will be full of regrets. The only way that you will not have any regrets on your death bed would be when you learn how to face your dreams. Learn how to confront the things that you fear the most. When you have done that then you should be able to live your life to the fullest.

Good Looks is Not the Same as Self-Confidence

Some people believe that if they can only change their physical appearance and if they would look better, they would be able to get the self-confidence that they need. That’s not true because good looks are not equal to self-confidence. It could help but it is not the sole factor that would determine whether a person would be confident or not. In fact many good looking people in the world are also very insecure. That should be food for thought for someone like you.

Take Care of Yourself

If you want to have self-confidence then you should learn how to take care of yourself. That would apply not just to the physical but with the mental health as well. If you are confident about yourself then you should know how to properly care for your body and your mind. You will not go about abusing your body.

Give Yourself a Pep Talk

There are times when you would feel down and out. But don’t feel too bad because that’s bound to happen. You should just be ready for situations like that and have some pep talk ready. You can motivate yourself by repeating that pep talk over your head. You should use that in order to restore and boost your self-confidence.

These are just some of the things that you can do in order to build your self-confidence.